OLD AND ALONE

MENTAL HEALTH

Only a few weeks until the man in the red suit will be climbing down our chimneys and sprinkling festive cheer into our lives! Christmas is such a happy, joyous time where family and friends get together to celebrate- but what happens if you have no family? What happens if you have no friends? Without intention we can often make those struggling with isolation feel even more lonely as they see our smiling faces and hear our continuous laughter. I can only imagine how difficult the festive period would be without someone special to share it with.

Did you know that almost half a million people over the age of 65 years go without speaking to someone for a whole week? Nobody to vent to, nobody to encourage you and nobody to support you. Nobody to laugh with, cry with, eat with and wake up to. It is so important to appreciate a ‘good morning’ coming from the kitchen as you leave for work or ‘how was your day?’. So many people pray for exactly that.

Approximately one million elderly people in the UK claim to experience increased loneliness throughout December. This is heart breaking. If you have time, take a minute to click here to watch a short video produced by Channel 4 about the Campaign to End Loneliness.

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Unfortunately, we are all likely to know someone who feels lonely, even if they do not admit it. It could be our neighbours, friends or even our families. Often we are so self-absorbed that we often forget to provide support and happiness to those who may have very little to look forward to throughout their day. This Christmas, if we all make a small change, it will make a big difference. Why not post a Christmas card to your neighbour? Even better, have a chat with them and pass on a card personally. If you have grandparents and older relatives make an effort to give them a phone call- you might be the only person they have spoken to that day. I see a lady every morning stood with her cat in the window, watching the world go by, and her face beams with happiness when I smile and wave at her. It’s the little things that count.

Of course, it isn’t just the elderly who experience loneliness. At different times of our lives we will all feel alone. Sometimes we feel lonely despite being surrounded by more people than ever before. The same applies for anyone you think may need a friend- make yourself open and available.

If anyone reading this feels lonely, to any extent, and has nobody to confide in- do not hesitate to use the contact tab on this blog to contact me. Depending on the circumstances I could help to signpost you to organisations, clubs or services that could help you to find people with similar interests. Also, I am more than happy to be an online pen pal via my blog.

How do you take time out of your day to support others?

Until next time,

 Kayleigh Rose x

60 thoughts on “OLD AND ALONE

  1. We started inviting my great uncle over for Christmas a few years back after knowing he had been alone a few years. I think it’s so important to think about others x

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    1. That’s such a lovely thing to do! ❤ I hope you feel great that you’ve given them something to enjoy over Christmas x

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  2. It is so sad how the elderly feel during the festive season and I really hope that by raising awareness we can do more to help them feel less alone this festive season. I used to do something at Christmas where I would go around Elderly peoples houses and spend some time with them x

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  3. I feel for these people that have to spend Christmas alone , when my daughters were at school we used to visit the old peoples homes with edible gifts and they used to sing Christmas carols with them ,sadly we stopped doing this as girls went to university.We should restart the visits.

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    1. Thank you. From the comments i’ve been receiving, lots of people are doing lovely things to support their community! x

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    1. Maybe she has some nice neighbours that do kind gestures throughout the year to make her feel less lonely! Even a phone call can make a world of difference xxx

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  4. This is such a lovely post and definitely something that needs to be highlighted more. my husband and I want to do some volunteering on Christmas day but it hasn’t gone down well with certain selfish family members.
    C x

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  5. What a nice thing to offer Kayleigh. This is an area that grates on me a lot. I feel society treats people after retirement as non-existent. People work, pay into a society to be then kind of forgotten about when people retire. In a lot of cultures, the elderly are referred to as elders and considered with respect. I don’t like it at all. Christmas is a time loneliness is highlighted, but there are also 364 more days as well. What about a social outlet, a place every village and town has. Not as a quick wim to satisfy, but a long-term thank you for the lives these people have invested in this country. I personally do what I can. I volunteered at a home for a while, to do meals and more importantly, talk to people. Get those amazing stories of history, those forgotten not know things that happened during the war. It really really is amazing when you talk to a person who survived a war and grew up through post-war Britain. We should not forget, a lot of these people built up this country. Sorry this is, this means a lot to me.

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    1. I completely agree. I have heard so many amazing stories and even cared for someone who was in the war. It is a privilege! I love the way other cultures look up to their elders as you are saying. It doesn’t happen like that here. I’m glad you are so passionate about it! With more people like you we can make a change x

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  6. The thought of this makes me so sad – a whole week with no contact? It’s just such a shame and I think it’s so easy to forget about when we always think we’re so well connected over the internet. There seems to be a lot of groups in my local community helping with things like this, but it’s one of those things that people don’t like talking about which stops them from finding the help.

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    1. I know, I can’t even imagine a week not speaking to anyone at all. You’re right. I think we should try to find new ways to help and get in touch with people who need the support x

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  7. As someone who has little live interaction with people,I can somewhat relate. But in my case,it’s a self-imposed silence.
    I have withdrawn from a lot of folks and I find myself okay with this. But I know how sad this is for a lot of seniors who only to have a little human contact,volunteering is a great way to engage a lot of house-bound folks,programs like “Meal on Wheels”.

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  8. I think it’s really sad that some old people don’t have anyone to talk to or spend time with and I think it’s great when people try to involve them x

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  9. I always used to spend the weekend with my nan when I was a kid and I think she really loved it. There is so much we could do to support the elderly, it doesn’t take much in anyones day to spend 5 minutes talking x

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  10. I think that holidays are terrible times for people who are away from their families or who have no family left. During holidays I usually chose to go away and travel but old people can’t do this. It’s indeed important to think about them and try to include them in our family celebrations, even if they are just neighbors or friends.

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  11. When my grandma lived alone we would visit her once a week, and she’d come to us for dinner once a week, but other than that she had no visitors. Until it was someone’s birthday or Christmas, and they went round to fetch their card and monetary gift, that was! Then, last year, she was taken poorly and we made the difficult decision to move her into a care home. Now, she has visitors most days, whereas most of the other residents don’t. I feel really guilty, though, as I’ve not been able to see her since Christmas due to the home being on lock-down for a week due to many residents having flu, and then having flu myself. Hopefully I’ll get to see her soon, or she’ll murder me 😉

    Louise x

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